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6月20日 newsflash from yesterdayJonothan Dean was a friend. He was also a boyfriend, a decent boyfriend, to a very beautiful girl. But all that has changed now, by his choice. Jonothan dated this girl for about a year and a half. They loved each other very much, he was going to marry her one day. After all this I realised that Jonothan stole something from her; she was Christian see, a firm believer in no sex before marriage. They had had sex, on the pretence that Jonothan was actually going to marry her one day. That's how much he "loved" her. I don't know how much of their relationship was a lie. It all started about three or four months ago. I blame it on one thing and solely on one person for its beginning.
There is this girl, at school. Her name is Alisa. Her friends were both doing the Deb ball, no questions asked. Alisa however, was not. Her friends pleaded with her for her to do it, eventually she decided to, because she thought it might be fun, and it was what her friends wanted. Her friends went to Jonothan "can you do the Deb with Alisa, she doesn't know anyone and she needs someone to do it with" and of course he said he would. I don't think that when this happened Jonothan had any intentions of doing what he has done, but this was the point where it started. I'm not exactly sure of how Jonothan's girlfriend felt about him doing the Deb with Alisa, but I know that she never fully approved of it. Her mother stated that he couldn't dance with someone for two hours every week without feeling something for her. Jonothan went ahead and did it, despite how his girlfriend felt. The weeks went on and Jonothan attended weekly Deb practises, still maintaining his love for his girlfriend. He assured everyone that they both still loved each other as much as they always had and that she did not think he was cheating on her.
The weeks went on and Jonothan grew closer to Alisa. He began to sit at their table at lunch, and at recess. He completely abondoned his friends. He asked Alisa for her mobile number, to "get to know her better because she was new", and began texting Alisa regularly. Jonothan's girlfriend new of him sitting with Alisa, she lives across the road from the school, and from her house you can see where they sit. He wasn't trying to hide anything. He would sit there, with her, the other two girls on the other side of the table. They would sit close, touching. Jonothan's poor girlfriend was jealous, as any girl would be. She had no way of knowing exactly what he was up too. She couldn't go over there during school and see him. Most of the time when Jonothan was with Alisa, she was at work and heard of them sitting together from her mother.
Soon enough Jonothan was hanging out with Alisa more and more. This "attraction" was so much so that Jonothan blew off his girlfriend to go out with Alisa and the other girls. Now of course she would be jealous, as well as very annoyed. They were meant to go and see "the Da Vinci Code" one night, instead Jonothan told his girlfriend that he couldn't go, he was going with his friends (not Alisa) and went with Alisa and her friends. Jonothan's girlfriend rang some of his friends, who told him that Jonothan had gone with Alisa. She must have been devastated. All through this Jonothan maintained his love for his girlfriend, and also that she didn't think he was cheating on her. That's exactly what she thought. Upon finding out that Jonothan had gone to the movies with Alisa she sent Alisa a text message (at 4am!) - "did you go to the movies with my boyfriend? if yes did you organise it? or did he?" Clearly a jealous girl, who wouldn't be, he lied to her so he could go out with Alisa.
Jonothan continued to get closer to Alisa, and people started getting suspicious. Many people, not just his poor girlfriend, thought he was cheating. He denied this aggresively, not just passing it off, like someone without a guilty conscience would do. I think the reason Jonothan got so aggresive was because what we were saying was real. It wasn't the classic cheating though, no actual kissing or hooking up. Jonothan's girlfriend's mother defined cheating as "well if he's running around with this girl behind her back then it's cheating" and I think she's absolutely right. If he wasn't doing anything, why could he just not tell her that Alisa and her friends had invited him to the movies and that he wanted to go? Why did he have to drag his abandoned friends into this to cover for him?
I'm not quite sure of the correct order of events for this, but I'm pretty sure all this happened in the days, the weeks just before the Deb ball. Jonothan told his girlfriend that she was not allowed to go and watch him at the Deb, not allowed. No one dictated who was and was not allowed to go. Jonothan just didn't want her there. Perhaps Jonothan was covering his ass so that if something did happen she wouldn't find out. Either way, his girlfriend was allowed to go, and would have gone if he had let her. Jonothan also had a haircut prior to the ball, which his girlfriend's mother organised for him. After it had been organised Jonothan asked for it to be rescheduled for some reason that he pulled out of his hat. After it had been rescheduled for that reason it came about that Jonothan would be able to go downtown with Alisa, an apparent coincidence. Jonothan had text messages on his phone to Alisa - "I can come to the hairdressers with you now" - he planned it that way. Jonothan began to hang out with Alisa more often, much to the disappointment of his girlfriend, and his other friends who were sure there was something going on. Jonothan's girlfriend sent a message to Alisa at one point - "he may be spending days with you at school, but he's coming home and making love to me". Jonothan used to sing to her too, sing her to sleep (how romantic...not this time though). On one particular night he was singing the James Blunt song, "Goodbye My Lover". His girlfriend was shocked that he would sing such a thing to her, hoping he honestly didn't mean it but fearing he did. He reluctantly changed this to "goodnight my lover".
This is the three days involving the Deb - Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
On Thursday Jonothan spent a wonderful afternoon with his girlfriend. They had a very nice time. He took her to see a movie (about time I think), but he took her to see "The Break Up". Now that's a bit of a weird movie for some one in Jonothan's position to be taking his girlfriend to go and see. When asked why Jonothan said "I need to know how to break up...uh...with Alisa" to which his girlfriend's mother said "you can't break up with someone that you're not with". She was suspicous of Jonothan, and who wouldn't be?
Friday was the day of the Deb. Jonothan sent his girlfriend a text message - "if I could measure one millionth of my love for you, it would sink the Titanic", now isn't that sweet. At the Deb Ball Jonothan was all over Alisa. They slow danced all night. Although there was no apparent romantic connection and one would argue that he was not cheating, it is the common belief that he was. Him and Alisa tried to escape down to Coles at about 11pm to "buy alcohol". Much to their disappointment they were accompanied, as to make sure that nothing happened. At 1am Jonothan sent another text message to his girlfriend saying "I know you're asleep but I just wanted to tell you that I love you and I miss you". At this point of the night he was still with Alisa. Jonothan stayed with Alisa, the whole night, and I'm not sure how far into the next day. Jonothan went to one of the girls' house after the Deb, for her little afterparty get together. Alisa was there. For the first time this could actually be called cheating. No one will admit to anything happening but like they would anyway. Jonothan told his girlfriend that he was staying with friends, friends that didn't even know about this cover up. His girlfriend rang these friends, who replied "Jono isn't here, he never was, he's with Alisa". She must have been heartbroken again. This poor poor girl.
On Saturday Jonothan finally got around to dumping his girlfriend. He rang her (he couldn't face her) at 4pm, after she had had the worst day at work. He rang her and plainly told her that he didn't love her anymore. She asked "when did you come to this decision?", the reply - "Wednesday". After all those text messages, and all that time spent together, he didn't love her anyway. What a lie were those last couple of days. I couldn't believe it when I heard it. On Saturday night I was at a party for a friend's 18th. Jonothan's (ex)girlfriend rang me, telling me that Jonothan had dumped her. I was shocked. She urged me to find out what was going on between Jonothan and Alisa, what happened at that afterparty. I guess she needed to know if he really was cheating on her. I texted Jonothan asking him what was going on, no reply. I also texted Alisa, but forgot to tell her who I was so she wouldn't have written back anyway.
On Sunday morning (early mind you) I recieved a message back from Jonothan - "listen, I have never once cheated on (girlfriend). throughout this entire ordeal I have been faithful. however since I've been going to Deb practise and then the Deb (girlfriend) has spaced her self away from me and I've fallen out of love with her. I don't have feelings for another girl. Me and (girlfriend) broke up on Friday morning and I realised how much fun I had at the Deb. I don't want a girlfriend at all. and I know people saw the slow dancing between me and Alisa but what they don't know is we had already split." Let's critically analyse that message from the beginnig shall we. Cheating is in the eye of the beholder, we believe Jonothan cheated but he does not. Jonothan's girlfriend never spaced herself away from him, he started hanging with Alisa more (remember him blowing her off to see Alisa) and his girlfriend was jealous. That was not her fault. Jonothan also stated in this message that he split with his girlfriend Friday morning, which is not true. It wasn't until Saturday that he broke it off, meaning that the slow dancing was not alright. I'm guessing that is also what he said to Alisa, because she was shocked to learn about the break up being on Saturday. And of course no one knew they split, whether he said Friday or Saturday because he didn't tell anyone. Not me, not any of his friends. I told them all, because I had to ask what was going on with Jonothan and Alisa. This whole message was a lie, and I honestly thought better of Jonothan. I am disappointed that not only has he lied to me, all his friends but he broke up with his beautifiul girlfriend for Alisa. It doesn't matter if Jonothan and Alisa get together, the fact of the matter is that Alisa is the reason that Jonothan dumped his girlfriend, a wonderful, beautiful person.
Jonothan accuses me of being a bitch, I haven't done what he has done. He has been a true asshole, the worst kind of person I have ever known. I thought he was better than that, all his friends did too. I hope Alisa still likes him, because no one else does anymore. 引用通告此日志的引用通告 URL 是： http://kittykatdancerbabe.spaces.live.com/blog/cns!90302A0F7EBBD4D4!3703.trak 引用此项的网络日志
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